tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5350339348313810194.post2277307280063929022..comments2023-10-12T15:03:15.389+01:00Comments on Lindsay's Romantics: April is Sexual Assault Awareness MonthLindsay Townsendhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11513558547686982857noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5350339348313810194.post-1025005361895571392009-04-08T04:30:00.000+01:002009-04-08T04:30:00.000+01:00Excellent post, Chelle, and I'm glad your book is ...Excellent post, Chelle, and I'm glad your book is being used to help women and raise awareness.<BR/><BR/>My WIP involves a young rape victim also and it gets hard to write. Did you have to take steps back now and then to pull yourself out of it?LK Hunsakerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10706929624587891992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5350339348313810194.post-1634476722627032022009-04-05T01:46:00.000+01:002009-04-05T01:46:00.000+01:00Chelle, you are so right about that!Chelle, you are so right about that!Savanna Kougarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15698138048388102279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5350339348313810194.post-11307759233368671742009-04-04T21:59:00.000+01:002009-04-04T21:59:00.000+01:00In Bartlett's Rule, Paige had trusted her rapist a...In Bartlett's Rule, Paige had trusted her rapist and when she realized that he did intend to hurt her he had already gotten the upper hand - so she was convinced that it was her fault that she hadn't been more successful in fighting him off.<BR/><BR/>Last year one of the major mags ran an article about "grey rape" and caused a huge flurry of accusationsd on both sides - one of the lines, "said NO too softly" was especially inciteful in a lot of arguments.<BR/><BR/>That is why I always stress that it is NEVER the victim's fault no matter how much or little they do to thwart the attack.<BR/><BR/>I am glad to hear the strength in your words "what was perpetrated against them" - too often self-blame and loathing results in self-destructive acts and further tragedy.Chelle Corderohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15412268726863698528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5350339348313810194.post-27915029191592173932009-04-04T19:33:00.000+01:002009-04-04T19:33:00.000+01:00Chelle, I certainly didn't mean to suggest those p...Chelle, I certainly didn't mean to suggest those particular strategies are the only answer. I certainly don't think the person, male or female, should feel guilty because of what was perpetrated against them. In fact, if my attacker hadn't been so pathetic and psychologically damaged, I would have felt like doing him in... which, I have no problem with.Savanna Kougarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15698138048388102279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5350339348313810194.post-18186517571863233342009-04-04T12:50:00.000+01:002009-04-04T12:50:00.000+01:00While self-defence courses are certainly worthwhil...While self-defence courses are certainly worthwhile, and prevention should always be enforced, victims should never feel that they "didn't do enough" or "didn't say no loud enough".<BR/><BR/>BTW, as I said earlier in my post, men can also be victims and my novel Courage of the Heart actually involves a male survivor. He actually admits to feeling "inadequate because there was nothing he could do to stop it."Chelle Corderohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15412268726863698528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5350339348313810194.post-33662334168120472982009-04-03T22:56:00.000+01:002009-04-03T22:56:00.000+01:00Chelle, it is a vital issue. And thank you for bri...Chelle, it is a vital issue. And thank you for bringing more awareness to all of us.<BR/><BR/>Personally, and this is ONLY my opinion, which I can state because I went through a similar situation as your heroine, I think girls/women should be encouraged to learn ways to protect themselves by learning a martial art, psychological techniques and how to use weapons.<BR/>Unfortunately, our society has become so averse to standing up for ourselves and each other in the ways that truly work and have worked in the past, this kind of reprehensible behavior will merely continue.Savanna Kougarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15698138048388102279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5350339348313810194.post-37717960973475098612009-04-03T08:40:00.000+01:002009-04-03T08:40:00.000+01:00Thanks for this post, Chelle. It is a such vital i...Thanks for this post, Chelle. It is a such vital issue.Lindsay Townsendhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11513558547686982857noreply@blogger.com