Thursday, 6 August 2009
My kind of hero...
I suppose, when it really comes down to it, I’m a pretty independent girl. Life has thrown me more than my fair share of curve balls, which has taught me to make my own decisions, stand on my own two (often very weary) feet, change my own light bulbs, fix my own loo and anything else in my bubble than needs TLC… except the car, I still need to master that one. Not that I regret learning all these “useful skills” (mostly by necessity and with any number of ooops moments along the way) but it would be nice, now and then, to have some super-able hunk step up to the plate and do the dratted chore in half the time it usually takes me (mainly because I lack the physical strength, that’s definitely a guy-thing).
Which probably pushes “willing and able to do stuff” rapidly upwards on my list of hero-criteria. A hero so romantically minded that he’s no earthly good definitely doesn’t qualify. Then again, having one who is so earthly minded that’s he’s no romantic good doesn’t quite cut it either. At the end of the day it would depend on the how and why of it… does he do stuff as the “macho” man, or because it keeps him in control? Or as the sensitive type and simply because he’s there, he can, and would like to lend a helping hand?
I’ve seen both types, sadly more of the former than the latter, and have to say (IMHO) that there’s nothing quite as, well, interesting as a gorgeous man helping out because he wants to. And while I’m all for the swashbuckling, riding out of the sunset, larger than life heroes, I tend to write “real” men. Heroes who have both feet on the ground, their hearts in the right place and their heads held high. My heroes tend to “own” the space they’re in, have the courage to let their sensitivity through and a strong code of ethics that makes their foundation.
Not perfect, not by any means. True courage in a hero is being able to say “I’m sorry” because they truly are and not because it’s expedient, or it’s expected of them. And they all have that streak of the romantic, that eternal, all-consuming something that keeps them hanging in no matter what, that has them fighting for what they believe in, that enables them to see beyond the here and now to the deeper things of the heart.
It may take time for them to “find” that. Heroes have to have a “growth journey” too. But they have a core of resilience that has them going the distance, and when they love… oh yes, they do it with heart, mind and soul. And a gorgeous hunky physical presence that’s willing and able to do what needs doing because they can, and because they want to.
Thanks for having me along! If you’d like to get to know my heroes a little better, you’ll find them here:
Still Running – a hero who has the courage and determination to fight for love…
The Look – a hero sensitive enough to be able to speak into her soul with a single look…
A Thick Black Line – willing, able, and there because he wants to be…
Real Romance for Incurable Romantics